I have known David Nour for twenty years. We met when he attended a Grace@Work Bible study I was hosting in my office in 1995. At the time, he was a newlywed and a salesman for a technology company. I was impressed from the moment I met him. He is a man of unlimited potential. He and his brother immigrated from Iran, attended University and embraced the American dream.
David is now a top rated author, speaker and consultant on the subject of transforming business relationships into business success. He is the relationship guru and has written eight books. Last year, he gave sixty-four speeches all over the world and consulted with ten F500 companies. He and his wife Wendy have been married for 22 years and have two children.
David is also a motorcycle enthusiast. This is something we have very much in common. The difference is, David does it and I talk about it. He told me he has ridden four thousand miles on his Ducati this summer. He took trips from Atlanta to Vermont and also from Orange County, California up the Pacific Coast Highway to San Francisco and back again. One of his clients is Honda Motorcycles USA who allowed him to attend a two week course on becoming a certified motorcycle mechanic. David has four motorcycles and two lifts in his garage.
By contrast, I rode to Dahlonega, Georgia and back two times in the last four months for a total of one hundred and twenty miles. The difference is not only our involvement in our shared hobby. The real difference is David knows how to enjoy himself. David knows how to have fun.
Last week I called my friend and editor, Gregg Hinthorn. I told him I needed an emergency lunch. I was all bottled up and couldn’t seem to get a word on the page. I guess it is called writer’s block.
Little did I know the lunch would provide a break-thru insight. We talked for a while and he told me, “You are just like my father.” He said when he was a kid, his father, who is a renowned physician in infectious disease, kept a whiteboard at the dinner table. Even at dinner his dad would choose a subject for everyone to learn and discuss. This type of dad may seem odd, but I listened to this story and said, “How cool is that!”
You see, what had me stuck was the need to teach. I was in search of a subject for you, my reader, where I could tell you the three, five or ten things you need to do to be successful. Gregg told me, “Unless you are learning, teaching or advising, you don’t feel you are being productive.” Bingo!
Even when Kathy and I go to a movie where we can kick back together and relax, I find myself trying to analyze what I can learn from the movie. Heck, I even tried to figure out the message of “Ted 2.” I am one sick dude. Gregg’s advice was simple. “Stop. Just tell a story. Have a conversation with your readers. You don’t have to always give instruction. They want to know what’s on your mind. Talk to them.”
Since that time I have made a concerted effort to just enjoy a conversation. No teaching, preaching, learning. Just enjoy the conversation. It’s okay. That is the pleasure of friends and family. Listen, talk, laugh, enjoy. This is breakthrough thinking in my relationships.
So I asked David Nour to teach me how to have fun. He seemed to have figured out how to be successful and enjoy life.
David met with me just this week. We met for two hours. The first part of the meeting was about his motorcycle adventures and my motorcycle adventure dreams. We then covered four new ideas he had for expanding his business. This is my sweet spot. Back to listening, summarizing and advising. I loved it.
Then David said, “Get out your calendar. We are going on a motorcycle ride in two weeks from Atlanta to Murphy, North Carolina. Just me and you. We’ll ride up there first thing in the morning, have breakfast and ride back.” It is now on the calendar.
As he was leaving my office and walking down the hall, I thanked him. I was thanking him for valuing my advice and for committing me to a fun activity. David didn’t even turn around. All he said was, “I am now your Rabbi of fun.” How cool is that!